Ok. I’ve been ‘checking up on’ Beyonce’s songs. Now I guess I should preface this piece with two primises:
1. First and foremost my persnal relationship is a match made in heaven, so this doesn’t apply to me.
2. I’m kind of a certified Beyonce-Hater. I have a card and everything, but I often give props where musical truth prevails.
But anyway. I’ve been listening to some of her new and not so new songs. And they (not unlike MJB’s last album) are a quandry of contradictions that seem to personify what it is to be a lady. At least they are in her opinion, and they must be pretty darn accurate for all women in the US to rush to the dance floor for any of her feel-good classics. I didn’t really know what was in the meat of these albums, songs like “Resentment”, “Flaws and all”, “If I were a boy” and the new phenom. “If you like it then you should have put a ring on it”. Now I understand these songs are vivid snapshots of emotional expression of a singular tima and place, but come on! Who in the heck would want, much less love such a difficult mess of inconsistancies.
I mean Beyonce represents a large group of women who would have no hope for finding a mate if some men didn’t find women in general irrisistably attractive and/or endearing. I mean God had a good point for making the cutest of the sexes the seamingly emotionally and mentally unstable one. I mean if dudes were as base as we are and as difficult as women are, repopulation would halt like a crackhead for a crackhouse. I mean women would just go without (for the most part). As women, when it comes to this “Ms. Independent” make it utterly clear that they don’t need men. Not even for coitus. And the funny thing is men never said women weren’t independent. But it is the sole purpose of society to stress mens expendability. So what would the world do if dudes just dipped?
I’ll tell you what they’d do, women would fight, and argue in a logic free manner untill they were all a bald bleeding mess of angry, caddy, haters. But naw seriously.
Why must good men love a woman flaws and all just because she’s hot as hell?
Why would any man put a ring (thousands of dollars, and a lifelong nag) on something he just “likes”?
If you were a boy you’d realize your feelings based on hypothetical suppositions don’t really make sense, and that they magnify your baseless insecurities.
And resentment? welcome to the world of the man. Only we cant complain about it if we ever want to get any food, clean clothes, or lovin’ ever again. Because, guess what, when we put a ring on it, it put us at your whim for everything forever.
Not to say that being single is an opportunity to hedge your bets, but it is!!!
To be real a lot of women are reliable. Especially for their children, their jobs, and sometimes with providing income. But men are always relied apon for income, and protection, and sometimes come through on support. But men are always reliable when it comes to love making (and all that comes with it. You know we won’t say ’no’!) Women are sometimes reliable when it comes to food, and house keeping, but RARELY when it comes to “pleasing the man” (This includes gametime silence, and love making).
And yes we do get jealous when women get attention from other men, but we know when she gets with him, she’ll nag him and expect unrealistic things from him as well. That is–unless she learned something from our old relationship. I’m just not down for
